The parenting hack you didn’t know you needed: human design

How human design transforms how you parent

Parenting doesn’t have to feel like an endless struggle to make it to bedtime. I know firsthand how exhausting it can be to constantly second-guess myself and wonder if I’m doing enough. The mom guilt can be overwhelming, making me feel like I should always be doing more. But I’ve also learned that it doesn’t have to be this way. When I started understanding my human design—and my children’s—I discovered a more natural, supportive way to parent. Instead of power struggles and frustration, I began seeing my kids for who they truly are while also honouring what I need to feel energized and confident as a parent.

Here’s how it plays out in real life.

The projector child: when rest is the answer

I had already been studying human design when I became a parent, so I knew early on that my eldest son, a projector like me, would have different energy needs than other kids. Even though mainstream parenting advice often emphasizes keeping children constantly engaged, I recognized that projectors thrive with intentional rest. I had a deep understanding that he wasn’t meant to keep up with the same energy levels as his peers, yet I still found myself doubting whether I was doing the right thing when I noticed him withdrawing or becoming overstimulated.

When I started fully applying human design to my parenting, everything became clearer. Instead of feeling pressure to push him through activities, I leaned into what I already knew—he needed downtime. When he’s overstimulated, quiet time with books or a cozy space to observe rather than participate works wonders.

Now, when I see that shift in his energy, I trust my instincts rather than second-guessing myself. Instead of pushing him to “snap out of it,” I offer the downtime he needs. The result? A calmer, happier child—and way less frustration for both of us.

The manifesting generator child: keeping up with the speed

My younger son, a manifesting generator, is an entirely different story. He thrives on variety and movement. When he’s grumpy, it’s not because he needs rest—it’s because he’s bored.

At first, I tried enforcing “quiet time” like I did with his older brother, but it only made him restless. That’s when I realized he needed options: multiple toys, activities, and books to rotate through. When I gave him the freedom to bounce between different things, he naturally became more engaged and less frustrated.

Instead of trying to slow him down, I now embrace his need for movement. He’s happier, and I no longer feel like I’m constantly fighting against his nature.

The projector parent: letting go of mom guilt

Then there’s me. As a projector parent, my energy isn’t built for constant go-go-go, yet for the longest time, I felt like I had to keep up with my manifesting generator husband, who effortlessly handled early mornings and high-energy playtime.

I used to push through exhaustion, battling mom guilt whenever I needed a break. But when I started honouring my design, I realized something huge: quality time matters more than quantity. By letting my husband take the early shifts while I recharged, I became a more present, joyful parent.

Now, instead of forcing myself to run on empty and spend every waking minute with my kids, I trust that taking care of my energy benefits everyone. My kids don’t need a burnt-out version of me—they need me at my best.

Creating a parenting approach that works for you with human design

Parenting isn’t about following a set of rigid rules—it’s about discovering what works best for your unique family. Human design offers a way to:

• Reduce power struggles by understanding what your child truly needs
• Parent in a way that aligns with your energy (without guilt!)
• Foster deeper connection by supporting each child as they naturally are

If you’re ready to transform the way you parent and bring more ease into your days, my Master Your Parenting with Human Design ebook is here to guide you. Inside, you’ll learn how to create a parenting approach that feels good for you—while supporting your children in the way they were meant to thrive. Get started for only $27.